having a crisis in one’s personal life is an interesting thing.
not the crisis part – but the way people react to it.
although i post gobs of gory detail of my life here on El Bloggo, in my real life, i am rather private.
the recent demise of my relationship has been far too public for my liking, and far too many people are fascinated by it. i understand the impulse – it is a juicy story. but i am now starting to hear versions of it that aren’t anywhere close to factual. and now more and more people want me to talk about it.
there are some people now practically insisting that i talk to them about my personal life. suddenly, i am interesting? more likely, they want the inside scoop.
i’m keeping counsel with trusted friends and my inner circle (which includes my village here on habeshachild). that’s it.
i know i can’t control what people say about me, my ex, the whole sordid mess. but it still bothers me – a lot – that they are so intrusive and meddlesome. maybe because i’m NOT talking about it a lot, they feel they can just make stuff up?
my shrink reminds me that the reaction of others to my situation speaks volumes about their OWN unresolved “stuff”, and very little about me, K, or us.
this is true, i know.
what i didn’t expect is how many people have so much “stuff” that is stirred up by this situation.
and they all want to talk to me about it.