just sent this off to the new(ish) Head of School. had a tête-à-tête with him last week, and was very impressed. he’s an African American man with a Masters Doctorate in Education and he knows his shit. we touched on this very possibly inflammatory topic and he asked me to send him an email. so i did.
this could get interesting…
Hi [Head of School],
Thanks again for your time on Thursday morning – it was great to get to chat in person and hear your thoughts about [the school]‘s future.
I wanted to reiterate my concerns and thoughts regarding children of color and their classroom assignments in the [pre-k/k] program.
To be sure, it is a benefit to white children to have children of color in the classrooms. This is one form of the diversity that parents are looking for when they bring their children to [the school]. However, common sense dictates (and I believe research confirms) that clustering children of color together is better for them. They do not take on the burden of being the representative for an entire group or race, they do not feel conspicuous, they have others with whom they share experience, and they feel more safe and “normal”.
Especially in a place like [our whitey-white county], not only is it critical for children of color to have teachers who look like them, it’s vital that they have peers who look like them. And a critical mass of peers is necessary, not a token one or two. Put simply, having six or seven other black kids in a class is clearly a different, and better, experience for a black child than being one of only two or three.
Sadly, there are not enough children of color in the [school] community to form critical mass in more than one classroom (an issue to tackle in another email…)
So the question becomes this: will [the school] cluster children of color together in one [pre-k/k] classroom to best serve those children, or will the school distribute them throughout the three classrooms, to best serve the majority who want diversity?
I feel strongly that the former is the right thing to do. These kids have enough of a burden to carry; we should not ask them to sacrifice their comfort and quality of their educational experience to benefit others.
I hope you agree, though I do understand this topic is controversial at best, and it may be difficult for you to take a public position on it.
Please let me know what I can do to help and advocate for our children of color in the [pre-k/k] program.
Best regards,
[me]


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13 May 2012 at 7:22 pm
Ethiopian Social Assistance Committee
Going through a similar thing here. Good luck to you, he sounds like he’s at least willing to entertain conversation on the topic?
13 May 2012 at 7:31 pm
susan
good luck! I hope it works out.
14 May 2012 at 2:56 am
Kerry
Love it. You are right.
14 May 2012 at 7:42 am
rebekah
I’m about to talk with one principal about this as well… let me know how it goes!
14 May 2012 at 10:57 am
KateM
You go girl!! I had a similar experience when trying to oust our Boy Scout troop from our private school as their discrimination policy did not match the schools….let me tell you, it is what smart passionate mom’s do….keep it up!!!
Just posted this link to FB. DIfferent take but similar topic! http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/13/education/at-explore-charter-school-a-portrait-of-segregated-education.html?smid=fb-share
14 May 2012 at 8:06 pm
sksinc
I’m so glad you shared this letter. I have a feeling this same topic of discussion may be needed in the future for my daughter.
15 May 2012 at 1:59 pm
rebekah
Any reply? Meeting with local principal tomorrow.
15 May 2012 at 2:14 pm
habeshachild
in person I got a “yeah, i am with you, but it’s complicated” kind of response. in writing i got a “thanks for your thoughts, and i will keep you posted” kind of response.
it’s very tricky, because parents of white kids are paying a lot of money for (in part) the school’s diversity. and there are more of them than there are of us.
16 May 2012 at 8:11 am
becky
I had this conversation with the principal at our new school (for 1st grade – the fancy private school that we chose for K has been a disaster for several reasons, but this very reason being high on the list) a few weeks ago and got a “can’t make any promises” type response, despite my having a stack of literature to support my case. May I steal your letter as my follow-up?
16 May 2012 at 8:18 am
Habesha Child
Yes of course!!
16 May 2012 at 10:44 am
rebekah
becky – I need to get my hands on your stack of literature. I had a very receptive meeting with our principal who knew a lot about this but hadn’t yet considered grouping kids together. He wants to continue to pursue ideas and options but needs more to work with the administration.
16 May 2012 at 1:16 pm
habeshachild
yes, becky, please share! i need all the ammo I can get.
17 May 2012 at 7:11 am
susan
Do you know, folks who have read the research, whether the advantage for children of color is when they are grouped with other children of color or other children of THEIR color? I ask, because my daughter, who is in a very nicely mixed class (nearly 2/3rds children of color), seems to divide the class into “black” and “not black.” Only she says brown, rather than black. Mixed race children, latino children–she counts them all as white.
17 May 2012 at 7:18 am
habeshachild
That’s such a good point, Susan. Elsa counts only the African and African American people as brown like her. The Asians, Indians, and Latinos get lumped in with Caucasians as “pink”. It’s very interesting. Would love to read research on this.
19 May 2012 at 4:54 am
Leo
Great post, great letter! I’m coming out of lurking to say thanks for posting and for sharing. Go to the mat for sure! I am saving this letter to help me for when Kindergarden starts! I too would love to get my hands on the literature on a silver platter without my having to go dig for it!!!
As for race and color awareness, I have found I’m chocolate you’re vanilla a most interesting and beautiful book written by an African American psychologist about race and color awareness for the child through 0 – teen years. Anyway, happy mat going! Leo
11 June 2012 at 10:34 am
Diane
I have a similiar situation with my kids. I recommended this (along with other suggestions) for the diversity committee last year. It was ignored. I’d like to try again, more forcefully.
Have you gotten any response/feedback from the school yet? Or are you just going to have to be surprised in the Fall?